To the girls out there

Hi guys.

So someone asked me to blog. And yes, I'll fulfill your request through this post. Cheer up :)

Well, last week, I've been scrolling down my twitter and found this thread of Kak Dena's giving her thoughts on how disgusting people nowadays associating women's aurah to men's imagination. You know what, this post has somehow triggered my inner feminism to vent out. Thus, bear with me for a while throughout this post cus I'll be freely exposing my thoughts over this issue.

It started out when people are obsessively making the issue of how muslim girls should wear clothes that are syariah compliance goes viral. They are continuously talking sarcastically bout those girls who don't wear 'modestly' and make them a bad person in figure. In addition, they also expressed their harsh criticisms over girls who wear make up to be fake. They also had made a fuss over the issue of girls who don't want to do the dishes as those girls don't deserve to be a good daughter and a good 'future' wife at all. Omg, these bunch of people got no chill! They even commented on the way Yuna dressed and giving bad perceptions towards her after the incident of Yuna being hugged by Usher during their live concert. It gets worst day by day, as people view this as a big issue because they really think that Yuna has worsened the image of our beloved country and the deen itself. Okay look, there're things that I can agree with them on these issues but not to the extent THAT SAYING YUNA IS A TOTAL SLUT FOR LETTING HERSELF BEING HUGGED BY A MAN. God made us different to actually teach us to embrace and accept each other respectively. He didn't create human to fight with each other over petty things such as the differences in religion and culture. He made us come with flaws so we can complete each other. If you think that you are devoted enough to the deen, then that doesn't give you the right to look down on your acquaintances who do not perceive the deen the way you are taught. Do you why know why these bunch of netizens went overboard on Yuna's issue? IT IS BECAUSE SHE WEARS HIJAB IN WHICH A PERSON WHO WEARS HIJAB CANNOT COMMIT ANY WRONGDOINGS AT ALL. A PERSON WHO WEARS HIJAB HOLDS THE KEY TO THE PURITY OF THE DEEN. A PERSON WHO WEARS HIJAB IS SO PERFECT AS SHE IS SO SUPERIOR AND RIGHTEOUS IN THE SOCIETY THAT SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE ANY FLAWS AT ALL. Gdi! How can you put the value of your deen over a person who wears hijab?!!!!! Yes, wearing a hijab is A RELIGIOUS COMMAND but that doesn't mean all the religion values lie on the people who wear hijab. She is a human too, she makes mistakes, so as you. Then, who are you to judge her? Who are you to say that she conforms to a devilish act by letting it slide? It was such an  uncontrollable scene. Huh people are so quick in making judgments! 

Next is, the so called 'make up' fights. Ugh this thing is getting on my nerves since forever. Why are those men being very fussy and crazy over girls' stuffs?! They feel so superior to judge girls who wear make up. It gives them such a satisfaction I guess. No boy! That's not a satisfaction when you go freely talking bout other people's flaws,but we call it as an ego. She bought all the stuffs using her own money and she wears them on her own will. Not even bother to ask you to buy her those stuffs. You do not need to understand their interest over make ups cause you will not be interested anyway. Nevertheless how much you state your hates towards girls who wear make up, I know you'll still attract to those girls who are pleasing to your eyes. Beauty is subjective. So, stop all the nonsense! Girls, wear anything that makes you comfortable and confident. Ditch all the negative perspectives that people throw at you, cause you're worth than that! I love you girls!

SO GIRLS, STAY BEAUTIFUL, STAY HUMBLE, KNOW THAT YOU'RE WORTH OVER THOSE PITIFUL MORONS WHO KEEP ON MOCKING YOU. THEY ARE THE REAL LOSER!

xoxo,
btrsyafni

Insecurity

Hi.

Well, this is every girl's biggest fear. The fear of being unwanted. Fear of being left out. Drifting through this modern era, people are becoming more and more judgmental though they claim themselves neutral. Oh crap. Girls are so fragile although you may see her stronger in the outside. Her heart is like the ocean wave. Sometimes it bids you pleasure but other times, maybe it could give you a heartache, I swear! So, their insecurity level is no joke, and you,my dear fellas, don't you ever make a fuss of her physical appearance. You never know how much time that she had invested to just look good in front of others, dolling up herself, make the best out of her. You never know how hard she tries to win people's heart and stand out among the crowds. Yes,that requires a major appreciation, but nahhh all she wants is just you, to acknowledge her presence and treat her like a person. Yes, a person. Do you know why? Cause most of the time, society only look up to people with pretty faces. Hahaha. Maybe you will say that I'm just being prejudice. Tell me, when you go on instagram, will your search engine be filled with the name of people who aren't that pretty and handsome? Bull's-eyes! I know right, it's our human nature to lay our eyes on beautiful things.But, never make it as a ticket for you to condemn others with an average look. All the beauty figures on instagram, they look so perfect in the eyes of the society, driving their thoughts to transform their wives, daughters or even girlfriends to look just like those beauties. They start condemning and contemplating every flaws that their girls have, wanting them to be as perfect as the beauty figures that they lavishly flatter. Too indulged with other people's perspectives, these unfortunate girls, start to lose their confidence level. Every bit and inch of their appearance is lacking to their concern."I want to be flawless", " Damn, look at those thigh gaps" , "My cheeks are getting swollen" , " I want a flat stomach", "I want to lose weight". They will never be satisfied until they get what they want. Some of them are willing to spend a large amount of money (hundreds or even thousands) and put themselves at risk for buying beauty products to obtain a faster result.*close up your dropping jaws first* This is just a glimpse of what girls are obsessing in the pursuit of  beauty. Nevertheless, people will never notice how broken she is in the inside regardless the flash of smiles that she presented to the whole world. She feels like giving up on everything. She hates herself for being fake. She loses her true identity. All she that has is just temporary. Knowing that people love her only for her beauty, left her in a bleak suffer. She suffers a lot,physically and mentally, in order to meet your pleasure and suit your preferences.


xoxo,
btrsyafni